A lot of people are waiting to feel confident before they start.
They think confidence is a mood that arrives, and then the hard thing gets easy.
It works the other way around.
Confidence is not something you feel your way into.
It is something you build, one kept promise to yourself at a time.
Every time you say you will do a thing and then you do it, you make a small deposit.
Your brain quietly notes that you are someone who follows through.
Enough deposits, and one day you notice you simply trust yourself.
That is all confidence really is.
A track record you have watched yourself build.
So stop trying to summon the feeling.
Start stacking the evidence.
And keep the promises small enough to actually keep.
Do not promise to overhaul your whole life on Monday.
Promise to do the one hard task before lunch, and do it.
A small promise kept beats a huge one broken, every single time.
The broken ones teach you the opposite lesson.
Every time you set a big goal and abandon it, you quietly learn that your word to yourself means nothing.
That is where shaky confidence actually comes from.
Not from lack of talent.
From a pile of promises you made and did not keep.
So shrink the promise until it is impossible to fail.
Keep it.
Then make the next one slightly bigger.
You are not faking anything.
You are earning your own trust, on purpose.
The feeling you are chasing is on the other side of the doing.
It was never going to arrive first.
Go make one small promise today and keep it.
That is where it starts.
– Asael Shinder
