When I first started learning databases, I thought the goal was simple: learn SQL.
Like many developers, I spent my time learning SELECT statements, figuring out JOINs, and trying to remember when to use GROUP BY. Every tutorial seemed to focus on writing queries, so I assumed that once I got comfortable with SQL, I would understand databases.
For a while, that felt true.
I could build applications. I could fetch data. I could insert records. I could update tables. If someone asked me whether I knew databases, I would confidently say yes.
Then I started working on real systems.
That's when I realized that writing SQL and understanding databases are two completely different things.
I remember encountering situations where an application behaved perfectly in development but struggled in production. Queries that seemed simple became slow. Operations that worked flawlessly during testing started causing issues when real users arrived.
My instinct was always to look at the SQL first.
But over time I learned that the problem often wasn't the SQL itself.
The real questions were:
- How is the data stored?
- Is the database using an index?
- How many rows is it reading?
- What execution plan did the optimizer choose?
- Are multiple users competing for the same data?
Those questions pushed me beyond SQL and into understanding how databases actually work.
One of the biggest shifts in my thinking came when I stopped viewing databases as storage systems and started viewing them as systems that manage state.
Every application has state.
- Bank balances.
- Inventory counts.
- Orders.
- Payments.
- Reservations.
- User profiles.
The database isn't just storing those things. It's responsible for ensuring that changes to them happen correctly, even when hundreds or thousands of users interact with the system at the same time.
Take an online store as an example.
Imagine there is only one laptop left in stock.
Two customers click "Buy Now" at nearly the same moment.
Without proper controls, both requests might see the same inventory value and both purchases could succeed.
The result is that you've sold two laptops when only one existed.
The problem isn't that someone forgot SQL syntax.
The problem is understanding how databases handle concurrency, consistency, and transactions.
The more I worked with production systems, the more I encountered lessons like this.
Sometimes a query was slow because of a missing index.
Sometimes data became inconsistent because operations weren't properly protected.
Sometimes performance issues came from design decisions that seemed harmless when the application was small.
In almost every case, solving the problem required understanding concepts that lived beyond SQL.
I had to learn about indexes.
I had to learn how query execution plans work.
I had to learn how databases store and retrieve data.
I had to learn about transactions, locking, and concurrency.
Most importantly, I had to learn that databases have behaviors, trade-offs, and constraints of their own.
Today, I still believe SQL is one of the most important skills a developer can learn.
But SQL is only the beginning.
The real journey starts when you begin asking questions such as:
Why is this query slow?
How is this data stored?
What happens when thousands of users perform this operation simultaneously?
How does the database guarantee consistency?
What trade-offs am I making with this design?
Those are the questions that move you from simply writing queries to truly understanding databases.
Over the years, working with databases in development, production support, and backend systems has taught me that there's a lot more to databases than writing SQL queries.
That's one of the reasons I've started writing a book called My Database as a Developer.
The book explores many of the topics I wish I had understood earlier in my career—database internals, data modeling, transactions, query execution, performance optimization, and the realities of working with databases in production environments.
I'll be sharing lessons from the book here as I continue writing and learning.
If you've learned a database lesson the hard way, I'd love to hear about it in the comments.
