Fear costs us everything.
I once heard this quote, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take,” and I really felt it in my career.
When I look back, I missed many opportunities just because I didn’t take a shot due to fear of not being good enough. I let them slide and watched someone else grab them and make something out of it.
So what fears am I talking about? Let's found out and find our fear score.
1. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
FOMO is the new fear in town, and it is slowly taking over everyone.
But what is FOMO doing in tech?
Tech has always lived with FOMO. Every new technology or tool gets picked up quickly because no one wants to miss out.
I remember when OpenClaw started booming. Suddenly, there were YouTube videos and articles everywhere. Everyone was writing about it, whether it was useful for them or not. Some were doing it for views, some because of FOMO.
If you feel FOMO, you need a reality check. Ask yourself: Am I writing or learning this because it aligns with me, or just because everyone else is doing it?
I also felt this. So I started learning and writing about topics more intentionally, trying to avoid blindly following trends and instead improve how I present myself.
How to reduce it
- Set a trend filter rule: Only explore tech that aligns with your goals. Ignore the rest.
- Follow a 70/20/10 model: 70 percent core skills, 20 percent adjacent, 10 percent experimental.
- Schedule curiosity: Instead of reacting daily, review trends once a week.
2. FOBO (Fear of Becoming Obsolete)
This is one of the most common fears right now, especially after the rise of AI.
The classic thought is “AI will take our jobs.” But AI will only replace people who stop improving.
If you keep building skills that are hard to replace, you stay relevant.
Think of it like having multiple arrows in your arsenal. If one becomes obsolete, you pick another, sharpen it, and move forward.
Whenever I feel this fear, I try to make myself more valuable than AI by learning how to use it better and making it work for me.
How to reduce it
- Stack skills instead of chasing tools: Combine domains like coding and product thinking.
- Focus on fundamentals: Logic, systems thinking, and communication outlast tools.
- Re-skill in cycles: Improve every 3 to 6 months instead of panic learning.
3. FUD (Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt)
This is one of the most common internal fears.
It comes when you start questioning yourself:
- Is my tech stack right ?
- Are my projects good enough ?
- Am I good enough for this company ?
Most people feel this, but no one talks about it.
This fear is dangerous because it slowly stops you from trying new things. You start holding back instead of taking risks.
I had this fear last year. I started working on it by attending events, talking to people in tech, building more projects, and sharing them on LinkedIn.
How to reduce it
Build proof over opinion: Instead of relying on what others say, build something real.
Follow adoption signals, not hype: Look at job postings and real usage instead of noise.
Time box your doubt: Give yourself a decision window and move forward.
4. FOCS (Fear of Choosing the Wrong Stack)
This fear comes when you choose a stack, start building, and then see others getting better opportunities with other stack.
You start questioning your choice. But the real issue is often not the stack.
It could be:
- weak communication
- basic projects
- lack of depth
Before choosing a stack, ask yourself:
- Do I like this
- Do I see myself working on this long term
I started with MERN and never felt the need to switch just because others were doing something else.
How to reduce it
Choose proven defaults first: Stability matters more than novelty in the beginning.
Focus on learning, not perfection: Most skills are transferable.
Design for flexibility: Build systems where switching later is possible.
5. FOWO (Fear of Wasted Opportunity)
This fear comes from the past. Looking back and thinking: What if I had taken that chance
I have felt this a lot. In college, I often let my project partner lead everything. Because of that, I never got the chance to speak at big events or present my work.
I stayed in the background while others got the spotlight. Later, I realized how much I missed.
But I also learned from it.
Now, whenever I feel like participating, I do it. Whether it is a Dev challenge or building something random, I focus on the process. I experiment with tone as well. Some articles are fun, some are serious.
The important part is showing up.
How to reduce it
Shift your focus forward: Opportunities keep coming.
Act faster on small chances: Build a habit of taking action.
Document lessons: Turn regret into a system for better decisions.
My fear score is 4 out of 5. I still have work to do. But I am trying to get better and not let fear control my decisions.
Fear doesn’t disappear when you wait. It fades when you act. Take the shot.
What’s your fear score?
