People tend to resonate deeply with sad stories on social media. I find it both intriguing and unsettling.
Why does pain travel so far, while joy seems to fade almost immediately?
Posts about losing a job, a failed business, or personal hardship often generate overwhelming engagement, comments, shares, and long threads of empathy.
Yet, when someone shares a success story, the response is usually brief and performative: “Congrats,” “Well done,” and then silence.
It raises an uncomfortable question: Do people genuinely struggle to celebrate others, or is something deeper at play?
The data suggests it is not simply envy or ill will.
Research consistently shows that people are significantly more likely to engage with and share negative content than positive content. In fact, large-scale studies have found that negative news can be nearly twice as likely to be shared.
But statistics only explain the what, not the why.
Pain is easier to relate to.
More people have experienced loss than extraordinary success. When we encounter someone’s hardship, we see a version of ourselves in it. It feels immediate, human, and real.
Success, on the other hand, can feel distant. Sometimes, even confronting. Instead of connection, it can quietly trigger comparison, where admiration and discomfort coexist.
There is also the matter of emotional intensity.
Pain demands a response. It provokes empathy, outrage, or reflection.
Joy, however, is often consumed passively. It is acknowledged, but rarely engaged with at the same depth.
And then there is the system itself.
Social media platforms are not neutral; they are designed to amplify what generates the strongest reactions. And more often than not, that is fear, loss, or struggle.
So perhaps the real issue is not that people do not want others to succeed.
It is that pain invites participation, while success is often reduced to observation.
In the end, what we see online is not a true reflection of reality but of what holds attention.
